I believe that having a platform is one of life’s greatest assets. It’s up to us to use it wisely, much like the biblical parable of the seeds: some are multiplied while others are kept hidden.
Let’s discuss responsibility in relationships, especially from a loving perspective, as this has significantly impacted my marriage.
When I met my wife through an organization and married her a year later, I realized that the idea of needing years of dating to truly know someone isn’t necessarily valid. In reality, many couples aren’t clear about their intentions from the start. Too often, it feels like both partners are using each other in some way—financially, emotionally, or otherwise.
After two years of dating, it’s common to have conversations about the relationship’s direction, and that’s when feelings of being used can surface. The reality is that dating doesn’t always prepare you for the challenges of marriage. True understanding often comes after you’ve moved in together, revealing new dynamics that may not have been apparent before.
I believe in addressing issues promptly; never go to bed angry or without discussing a concern. When you avoid conversations, unresolved issues can become burdensome over time.
Boundaries are also crucial in a marriage. The way you interact with the opposite sex should be managed thoughtfully. For instance, needing constant video calls with friends of the opposite sex can raise questions about trust. If you wouldn’t want your partner to see something you’re doing on your phone, it’s likely something to reconsider.
Often, couples assume they’re on the same page when they might not be. I’ve seen situations where both partners feel they’ve been used. If a man hasn’t made a clear commitment, it’s worth questioning the expectations in the relationship.
Ultimately, don’t fall victim to a lack of communication during your courtship. Having clear, honest discussions is essential for a healthy, lasting relationship.
