Love it or leave it, we will never fully understand the concept of love for us to even be able to advise you on it. With each experience, you realise that some things will never be in the syllabus and maybe that’s okay. As for the HH People Editorial team, we have lived different lives and here’s our unsolicited take on love. Some good, some terrible, but do with that what you will.
Deoye Falade
“You and your partner must like the same things.”
Erm…no, not really. If it happens, that’s a bonus but it’s okay to have diverse hobbies because you are different people. I’d go out on a limb and say that making this a requirement or dealbreaker might be a sign of codependency. Of course, it’s fine to show an interest and ask questions here and there but leave them to it and do your own thing. For instance, I’ve made my peace enjoying anime and heavy music alone and they’ve done the same with knowing I don’t care about K-Drama. Nobody has died.
Chinwendu Ogbechie
“That’s How I Am’
There’s nothing like ‘that’s how I am’. Compromise can always be made to complement the other person’s effort. This goes both ways. Please, this is not for your ‘uncompromisable values’. But why would you be dating someone that your values don’t align? 💀👀
Anuoluwapo Agboke
“If they’re nonchalant towards you, they’re chalanting elsewhere.”
Really and truly, stop telling yourself those lies and making excuses for not valuing yourself enough. Nobody is too busy to love you, nobody is too “I’m not that kind of person” to show you that you matter, and there’s nothing like being too broke to show affection. Love is very creative. Kindly lack every form of understanding for nonchalance and disrespect. You’re a Queen/King, you are worthy, carry yourself as such. Finally, let’s stop going to people woman to man or man to woman this year, dollar is N1,500, this is not the time to misplace your priorities.
Akindamola Akintola
My points are simple, think about it deeply.
- Having a child will save your marriage.
- You have to play hard to get my dear.
- Don’t worry, he will change with time.
- Opposites attract.
- Whatever happens, just forgive and forget.
- You have to get over her by dating someone else.
- I pity you. You’re putting all your eggs in one basket.
- As a man, you have to date down bro.
- Ehen, but can she cook?
Come off it!
Nneka Onita
“I’m not ready for a relationship.”
If they say, “I’m not ready to be in a relationship” more often than not, there’s a silent “with you”. The truth is that when they meet someone who excites them, they don’t have to think about whether that person ticks all their boxes. They don’t wait to be convinced beyond reasonable doubt. If someone loves you and genuinely wants to be with you, you will never have to second guess yourself or do mental gymnastics.
So, if they’re “not ready” rather than waiting like a mug on a shelf, please move on!
Priscilla Okorie
“Physical attraction doesn’t matter.”
Dey play!
Fegor Abade
“Leave the past in the past.”
Have an open mind, you will always meet good people but don’t think things will turn out bad because of a past experience. And remember, you have to love yourself to be able to love someone.
Clari Green
“See finish?”
In the words of my favourite relationship coach, Jillian Turecki (check out her podcast on Spotify, it will change your life!), relationships need curiosity. Even when we think we know everything about someone, we don’t. We are complex, and there is always more to learn and understand about each other. We must be curious about each other.
Interesting read.