The sheer idea of moving to a new city and starting over again made adrenalin pump through my veins. This signified change for me, something I was desperately reaching for at that point in my life.\u00a0 So, when the opportunity came to move to Abuja, I jumped at it. Not just for the new environment, but for a fresh start in my career and the people around me.<\/p>\n
The day of the move was great, the bittersweet goodbyes to family and friends and the butterflies in my tummy which represented excitement and fear. But nothing was going to spoil this day, it was my fresh start.<\/p>\n
One year later, I couldn\u2019t have been more grateful to myself for making that decision to pack my bags and move to unfamiliar territory. It wasn\u2019t all great the past year also, I had moments of doubt and frustrations, but these are the thre things that hit the hardest:<\/p>\n
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Making friends will take time<\/strong><\/p>\n Everyone seems to have friends at your new city and is ever willing to link you up with them\u2026 hard truth, 90% of the time, that bond isn\u2019t formed, your schedules are different, and the awkwardness is often times not worth it. Twelve months later, my only friends are those in my workplace and I am grateful for them. I have learnt that making friends will take time, I just have to take it one day at a time.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Making a \u201chome\u201d of your new city takes time<\/strong><\/p>\n My initial thoughts about Abuja were \u201cWhy is this place so empty\u201d everywhere seemed\u2026 well, empty. Compared to the hustle and bustle of Lagos, this just made it feel so new!\u00a0I still feel that way by the way<\/em>. Shortly, after moving here, I got an apartment close to my workplace to avoid travelling the \u201cexpress\u201d when I close from work at odd hours. I had found the perfect place I thought, I will buy all that needs to go in and my soul will be settled at once. News flash, my house still has only most of what I brought from Lagos with me, I have had a hard time filling up the house to feel like a home because of different reasons. But I can say, I still haven\u2019t warmed up fully to Abuja and my rented apartment still needs some getting used to\u2026 but it\u2019s slowly working its way into my heart.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n You will feel alone<\/strong><\/p>\n Eating takeout all alone on my bed seemed to be the other of the day, with no friends and little knowledge of Abuja, that seemed to be my best option. But looking on the bright side, it has made me feel comfortable with my own company and depend on myself more to look after me. I am learning that growth is not easy or linear, but when we take risks, we stretch ourselves, even when the immediate social benefits are slow, we still come out with an advantage.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n What huge risks do you plan to take this year?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The sheer idea of moving to a new city and starting over again made adrenalin pump through my veins. This signified change for me, something I was desperately reaching for at that point in my life.\u00a0 So, when the opportunity came to move to Abuja, I jumped at it. Not just for the new environment, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4688,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4685","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-features"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4685","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4685"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4685\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4702,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4685\/revisions\/4702"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4688"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4685"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4685"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heirsholdings.com\/hhpeople\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4685"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}